I don't have to remind you that the midterm election is just a few weeks away. If my mailbox and many of the ads on certain streaming outlets are anything like yours, it is impossible to avoid the shouting and posturing and claims of disaster just ahead.
To give us all a little breathing room, and to prepare us for what lies ahead, today's post is a simple exercise in "Yes, You Can." Yes, you can make a few changes in how you react to your environment that will give you a more positive mindset, and maybe help someone else who needs a simple boost.
From a source I don't remember, this is what I will call an encouragement to-do list. There is nothing here particularly novel, difficult, or too far out of your comfort zone. But, for at least a few days, let's focus on something other than the supposed end of the world after November 8th.
None of us is expected to accomplish everything on this encouragement list, Sainthood isn't the goal. Rather, by picking just two or three tasks you feel you can handle, your focus will be on helping others, with simple acts of encouragement or civility, instead of the rancor and heat of the moment.
Point out to someone a quality you appreciate in them.
Hold back your critical comments
Say "Thank You"
Search for ways to get along with others
Support those who are having problems by loving them
Think of a situation that tries your patience - plan how to react beforehand
Make a list of your gifts...then cherish them
Avoid situations where you will be drawn into the temptation to overreact
Encourage those who are timid and afraid
Ah, yes, "not always putting ourselves first" - the crux of the matter. Alan and I just returned from an extended loop through a number of southern states. We were taken by surprise at the number of people who said, "Good morning!" or " Hey, how ya doin'? " as we passed them on the street or entering a building. Such a simple courtesy and yet an incredibly kind way to brighten everyone's day. So unlike the northeast, generally speaking. I vowed to do better. (How are you all doing today?)
ReplyDeleteWhat a perfect example, Mary. My experiences in the American south is similar. It may have to to with the overall pace of life.
ReplyDeleteI am doing just fine! I hope you and Alan came home feeling both refreshed and energized.
These are all great ideas, and I am particularly working at planning how to react to situations that try my patience. There seem to be many. OH, and don't open Twitter for the next month. LOL.
ReplyDeleteIf the potential new owner has his way, Twitter could become even more of a cesspool than it is now!
DeletePracticing what you preach?
DeleteI avoid places that aren't good for my mental health and attitude. I haven't been on Twitter in over 2 years.
DeleteWe are gifting our two kids two nights, each, away with their spouses. So much stress in the world, our requirement is no work goes with them. We are gearing up for grandparent duty. We may make this a semi annual deal.
ReplyDeleteOtherwise, we are working on just remembering to smile and greet people. Relax and join in cheering local teams!
That is a great gift and one that will allow for lifetime memories for everyone. Nicely done.
DeleteAll good suggestions. One of the many things I appreciate about you (suggestion #1!) is that you are always willing to try new things. I'm thinking, for example, of your willingness to try painting. And to try RV travel. Oh, and playing the guitar. And meditation. And sign language. And more that I can't remember. You have a curiosity about life that is inspiring and refreshing.
ReplyDeleteOr maybe I have a very low boredom threshold! No, I appreciate the compliment.
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