July 29, 2022

The Loves of Your Life

It is likely the title of this post makes you think of a romantic or familial love you may have experienced. It could be your present partner, the one who got away, or even your first serious crush on someone. It could be your family or a favorite Aunt or Uncle. Your relationship with a grandparent might have been a vital part of becoming who you are. Heavens, maybe a pet qualifies. 

While that might make an exciting and emotional topic to explore, I am going in a different direction this time. I want to talk about the love of your life that was not romantic or how you felt (or feel) about another person. 

Instead, I want us to think about the love of our life in a broader context. Maybe it was based on a career choice, a job you once held, or a time at a volunteer organization that really ignited your passions. 

Maybe it is whenever you can curl up with a good book and lose yourself in a magnificent story. Some folks I know can't get enough of traveling, whether in an RV, a cruise ship, or spending a few months on the back roads of a foreign country.

For my grandkids and their parents, it would be anything Disney. If they have a free three days, you will likely find them queuing up for Pirates of the Caribbean or ordering something tasty at Cafe Orleans. These trips are the love of their life, at least for now. The seven-hour drive each way doesn't faze them.

This setup allows me to pick a love of my life with a different definition. Since Betty and I recently celebrated our 46th anniversary, that part is prominent. But, what else would I feel comfortable calling one of the "loves of my life?"

I pick my career in radio. Of course, for younger generations, radio is about as relevant as VHS tapes. Music comes from the Internet. The idea of commercials inserted between songs along with someone talking is silly. Who would listen to that? Not picking what you want to hear but being forced to listen to what someone else selects...impossible!

Disk jockeys don't exist much anymore, but the term DJ does. The young men and women who play dance music in front of a wildly enthusiastic mob of gyrating young people are stars in their own right. 

What captivated me at the age of 12 and didn't let go for forty years has passed from the scene, but not from my memories. There are a few clips of me on the radio fifty years ago floating around the Internet. I admit that, on occasion, I will jump in the wayback machine to hear my 21-year-old self. Those few minutes instantly transport me back inside that radio studio in that city. I remember the sounds, the feel, the lighting, the sense of control, how the walls looked... everything. 

I can recall the lunches a group of us announcers had every day at a nearby cafe. The rush of introducing Rod Stewart, The Moody Blues, and Aerosmith in front of several thousand screaming fans at a concert is still quite visceral. Being asked for my autograph was a very lovely ego boost.

My love of radio continued for another thirty years. Most of this period was not spent on the air but behind the scenes acting as a consultant and market researcher to radio stations that paid me well for my advice. I may not have been "playing the hits," but helping others decide what their listeners would hear.

Without this turning into a biography, suffice it to say, the part of my life spent on and in radio was memorable, stimulating, and rewarding. Of course, there were plenty of problems and mistakes along the way, but never enough to prompt me to consider another way to support me, my family, and eventually my retirement. 

How I earned my living was a forty-year love affair. 

What moment, decision, career path, or creative choice would you label one of the loves of your life? Anything that you remember fondly, or are still doing whenever you can, qualifies. If people can collect toilet seats, barbed wire, or washing machines, the "love of your life" can cover a lot of territory!


14 comments:

  1. I absolutely love love loved my career in the Operating Room. I've wanted to be there since age 9 watching "Medical Center". Joe Gannon was my hero. I loved the critical nature of trauma and being part of saving a life. I loved the demand of surgeons for expertise and thinking a step ahead. The restorative nature of Orthopedics. I have 2 new knees of my own and I love them! Yup. Loved my career and like to think I made a difference in a lot of lives and that brings me great joy every time I ponder :-)

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    1. Thank you, Elle, for such an excellent first comment. Your passion and dedication for what you did for so many years tells me you chose wisely. You absolutely made a positive difference in so many lifes.

      I am sure Dr Gannon (Chad Everett) would have been happy to know his acting had such a powerful impact on your life.

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  2. My art. I have been painting since 1976. It is the love of my life and always will be.

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    1. As a relatively new painter I understand the powerful draw of a blank canvas. At least in my mind, anything is possible.

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  3. What a fun post. I had a hard time paring down the list to just a few. In no particular order: I loved (and love) teaching, in both professional and nonprofessional contexts. I love spending time at my cabin. I love practicing martial arts. Hmm, is writing on the list? I am more in agreement with whoever said "I hate writing. I love having written." Ha!

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    1. Yes, this "love" list sounds right for you. I have always thought of you as a teacher even though I met you after you had retired from that phase of your life.

      Naturally gifted teachers never really retire, they just change subject matter.

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  4. I came to nursing (Labor and Delivery) a bit later in life, age 30..and LOVED LOVED LOVED helping women give birth…helping families have a good birthing experience and wrapping those newborns up in a warm blankie,after a delivery, and handing them to the mama..EXQUISITE MEMORIES.A true love of my life.I also LOVE LOVE LOVE the art,watercolor, and collage experiences I have learned as a result of classes,workshops, and friends who have shown me the way to express myself through watercolor,rubber stamping, and collage art! Late to that party too!! A current LOVE OF MY LIFE is continuing to enjoy NATURE..walks in parks,riparian areas, desert trails, and just my own property.. all very soothing. I also have a passion for music, and don’t have a TV on most days.. I have playlists on Spotify — I. Play MOTOWN for cleaning the kitchen,lol.. and I count on my friends,younger and older,to help me find new fun music and share their playlists, in addition to classical guitar, oldies,rock,folk, and more…. Music never dies!

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    1. This is a tremendous love list because it shows how you have shifted and changed over the years. Each passion allows a different part of your personality to emerge.

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  5. I love my home in the hills; kids from birth to young teens; front porch setting; watching plants grow from seeds to produce and/or pretty; kayaking on a lake; the smell after a rain; tending to people at birth and death as a nurse; music, mostly folk, country, old rock 'n' roll.

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    1. I just occured to me that bands have disappeared from today's music. Much like the 50s and early 60s, solo artists completely dominate. Sure there were plenty of solo artists during the 60s through the 90s, but that was the period when bands dominated.

      I wonder when the cycle will switch back to groups, and what they will sound like. Very little of today's solo pop music grabs me with the strong emotional pull of my youth's favorites but that is to be expected.

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  6. For me, it was flying airplanes. An enduring passion that combined a love of science with the poetry of flight. I also loved my university teaching career, which made me a lifelong learner and enriched my life in so many ways, and continues to do so. Now it is my garden. I tell people that my garden is my church. Eating a fresh, vine ripened tomato is nearly a religious experience.

    Rick in Oregon

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    1. I notice an interesting expansion of passions: the preciseness of flying, the intellectual stimulation of teaching, and now, engaging directly with the natural world.

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  7. Count me as promiscuously passionate -- unable to confine myself to just one passion. I have often described the great State of Maine as the great love of my life. I moved here for a job when I was 31 and have never looked back; I love the place both for its physical beauty and for it's culture. Teaching quickly went from something that I was required to do as part of my graduate school program to a lifelong passion. Gardening is another passion.

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    1. Betty and I have been talking about trying to get to Maine io our travels over the next few years. Believe it or not, our youngest daughter is boarding a plane at Portland airport as I type these words after a business trip Down East.

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