June 7, 2021

Know When To Fold 'Em

It started with a need. As I struggled through the first phase of my enforced retirement, I was looking for help...help in the form of guidance from someone who had been down this path before and could tell me where the pitfalls were, how to manage life without work, and what made retirement worth it.

After several years of figuring it out for myself, I realized there were very few resources for someone like me. Plenty of websites would help me with financial decisions and choices. But, to learn about managing my time, strengthening important relationships, managing my money without obsessing over it, finding hobbies and interests, and making where and how to live choices, there wasn't much available.

After nearly a decade, I figured I had some thoughts and cautions to share. Plus, writing was something I loved and wanted to do every day. So, Satisfying Retirement was launched in June of 2010 specifically to fill that need for all aspects of retirement information from someone who was living it, as he wrote.

Nearly 4 million views, 1100 posts, and 30,000 comments and questions later, apparently that need was legitimate. With five books, co-authorship in four others, and a profile in a national magazine, I have been privileged to spread the message that retirement is the stage of life that is only limited by your imagination and creativity.

It has been one of the most fulfilling experiences of my life, certainly for me, and I hope, for many others.

Like everything in life, change occurs. A path chosen begins to lose its way in the forest—the drive to do something fresh forces a look for new challenges. What once was fulfilling begins to feel too much like an obligation. 

When a journey has taken someone to the logical end of the road, it is essential to accept reality and find a new path. As the song says, you've got to know when to fold 'em.

When one accepts life's limits, that means we know the number of opportunities for making a difference and accepting challenges is not endless. To continue to trek along a path out of habit is against everything I have been writing about.


All of that leads me to this: with this post, I am ceasing publication of Satisfying Retirement. The website will remain active for the time being, so you can come back and read any of the 1100+ posts from the past. Also, I want to protect the Satisfying Retirement name from being taken over by someone else, someone who isn't interested in what was built here. The email address will continue to work.

Thank you for the support and warm words. My decision may be a bit of a shock and disappointment, but I trust you understand. 

A Satisfying Retirement is completely within your grasp. Go out today and give it all you've got.


All my best,

Bob



46 comments:

  1. Really sorry to see you go Bob, but I'm sure you have your underlying reasons. I will miss you as a fellow blogger and friend we have become over the years. Maybe a differently themed blogsite is in your future?

    As you know, I too have been blogging much less this last month myself because of the constant attention taking care of my wife demands after her health scare. Blogging only once or twice a week is less stressful but, as you infer, part of my destiny is to write. It is kinda like breathing to me.

    If you come back in any form, please let me know.

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  2. Congratulations on all you have accomplished and best wishes for your next chapter in this journey of life. I'm grateful to have found you when I retired nearly 2 years ago.

    Mazel Tov

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  3. Wow, I didn't see that coming! And I agree with RJ (above) I hope you come back in another form. Your blog has no doubt helped a lot of people. But after ten years of writing about a focused topic I can see why you might want to redirect your creative juicies. Whatever you do I wish you and your wife a continued happy retirement.

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  4. I appreciate where you are coming from. I think there's and end coming soon snd that life has a different chapter snd different direction. Having said that I will miss seeing your writings. Perhaps on a different topic? I'd be happy just to read your grandparenting adventures.

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  5. Enjoyed your blog and am sorry to see it come to an end.

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  6. Bob your blog and book helped guide me thru my retirement for the past eight years. First as pre retirement research then into my years of very satisfying retirement.

    Best of luck to you and family your blog will be missed.

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  7. We’ll Miss your blog but still have the friendship. Maybe your readers who enjoy seeing your travels and adventures, and Betty’s photos, can friend you on facebook! Betty has posted some beautiful Hawaii photos lately! And we;’d enjoy seeing some of your art! The world of writing is large..and you may blog again someday or take your writing to a different path.. but the creative urge might also be pushing you in new directions of expression! You’re following your own advice, here..and of course we all wish you well on your new creative journeys!

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  8. I found you in the fall of 18 when I was preparing to retire in the spring of 19. I was not looking for the financial advice 95% of the retirement blogs discuss but rather the lifestyle and dealing with the changes. You fit the bill and I have appreciated your advice over the last 3 years. Thank you for your time and experience and wisdom.

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  9. After 10 plus years, I would imagine blogging has run it's course for you. I've enjoyed your blogs over the last 3 years and wish you well in everything you do in the future.

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  10. All the best to you and Betty. You have had a great run here and are leaving behind a wealth of information for the next batch folks looking for a Satisfying Retirement.

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  11. Thanks so much, Bob, for sharing all your valuable insights, and I've enjoyed following you for years. Although I generally enjoy writing, authoring a blog like yours would be too much work at this stage for me. Wishing you and Betty the very best during your next chapter.

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  12. I understand (I've had a few similar thoughts of my own lately), but I'm still sorry to see you go. You've brought us lots of good information, intriguing questions, points to ponder. Best to you and your family as you move forward in life.

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  13. I have been reading your blog since my retirement in 2016. I had had an interesting career for 40+ years and fulfilling family days with my two children (now adults and both moving many states away from us) and thought I was ready for retirement. But after one week I was desperate to find ways to fill up my time, missed the lack of socialization, realized that I actually had no real hobbies other than reading and running and was SO unhappy. I honestly felt guilty about my unhappiness as family and friends couldn't believe I didn't embrace all of this newfound leisure time. I searched the internet for some advice and saw your blog and after reading several of your past posts I felt so much better.....that I was not the only one who was having a hard time figuring out about this new stage of my life. Since then I have loved getting these weekly posts and reading about you and your families lives, as well as so many others that have commented. I very much appreciate all the hard work and thoughtfulness that has gone into your blog and I will really miss all the advice, interesting views on many subjects and encouragement to live the best, fulfilling retirement life.

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  14. Thanks for everything, Bob, and best wishes for the future.

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  15. Hi Bob, Thank You for being "present" for us readers navigating our retirement years. I started reading your blog before I made the leap to my "satisfying retirement." I mentioned to you I'd be taking the "free-styling" approach exploring different things outside my comfort zone and see which ones stick. This season continues to be fun and enjoyable! God bless you and Betty in your next chapter charting your course. Thanks Again!

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  16. Hi Bob! Selfishly I am VERY sorry to see you go because I nearly always get something from your wisdom. You will be missed! However, I know how much work and commitment they take so I completely understand. I sincerely hope this decision is a move toward something that will fulfill you in more ways than this and that you enjoy the journey forward in whatever you choose to do. ~Kathy

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  17. While I can understand your desire to explore different paths, I'm so sorry that I won't be seeing your posts in my inbox anymore. I've enjoyed your insights, humor, and helpful advice over the years. Best of luck to you and I hope you enjoy your journey forward.

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  18. Bob, I have enjoyed reading your gems of wisdom over the last couple years and learning from your research and experiences. Best wishes!

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  19. While I too understand your desire to do other things, I will definitely miss your blog. It's been a source of information and great discussions in the comments. I've learned a lot and really appreciate the effort you put into it. All the Best!

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  20. Bob, it's been a pleasure. I've really enjoyed your blog topics and the discussions they created. Nothing lasts forever and who knows you may come back to it again in the future (once again?) In any case enjoy life and continue to have a Satisfying Retirement!
    - David

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  21. Thank you for all you have written about, studied and shared. I retired four years ago and found your blog. Your articles have been very helpful in my personal transition. Good for you Bob and many happy blessings to you and your family.

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  22. I've found your blog in 2016, while recovering from back surgery, and I've read 95% of your blog posts during that time. Your blog made me fell better and I haven't stopped reading your posts since them.
    Thank you for giving me a new view on retirement.
    Hope you have a great journey!


    P.S.: after reading this post (the original one) I've started my minimalist journey. I still have the link in my inbox, as an reminder:

    https://satisfyingretirement.blogspot.com/2020/07/a-drawer-full-of-rubber-bands.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed:+ASatisfyingRetirementLifestyle+(Satisfying+Retirement+)&m=1

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  23. The best of luck to you and your wife. I’ve always enjoyed your blog and will miss it.

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  24. thank you Bob for helping me since the first days of my retirement. Your comments, advices and creative ideas has been very useful. God bless you in your new stage. I miss you.

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  25. Bob, your advice helped ease me into my retirement, and helped to calm my fears. Thank you! You will be missed but I wish you the very best in this next stage of your retirement life! May God bless you. 🙏🏻

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  26. Morris from Canada here - All the best for your future endeavours – I’ve been a follower for many years – sorry to see you plan to ‘fold ‘em’ – really enjoy your articles - I’ve researched, written about and spoken to groups about retirement for years – at this time I’m finalizing my website – retirementandaging – have fun – if you have any future online retirement articles I hope I’ll be able to find it

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  27. I have tried unsuccessfully to email you directly from your newsletter a few times. Better late than never I found this link on your blog.

    Thank you for your honesty and insights over the past seven years I have read your newsletter. Yours has been one of the few retirement email feeds that I always looked forward to reading mainly because it dealt with the non superficial aspects of this phase of life
    Thanks and all the best in your next adventure,

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  28. Wishing you the best beyond your last blog post.

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  29. Just so you know, I am reading all the comments and I am blushing. I so appreciate your warm wishes and knowing that this place on the Internet has had some positive impact on people's lives.

    I did copy all the email addresses of those who receieved notification of a new post, or preferred to read them in an email instead of online. If I do start up some new venture, I will be sure to send you a notice to see if you might be interested in some new path we can explore together. If did not receive email notification and would like to be added to that list, drop me a note and I will be sure to add you to the file. satisfyingretirement at gmail dot com will continue to work and be read.

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  30. I will miss your blog Bob. I would like to thank you for all the hard work it took to keep this going. Your creation of an open forum for numerous important subjects was much appreciated. Thanks for including folks that did not always agree with you. Wishing you and your wife all the best. Happy trails.

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  31. Bob, I can't even imagine how many retirees you've helped make the transition from the workforce to the brand new world of retirement. You've often commented that the career path you followed when you were younger was not always an easy one. Maybe that was not the career that you were meant to thrive in - maybe it was really this one. You probably never thought of blogging as a career, perhaps a passion or a vocation would be a better word for it. But no matter what you call it, I'll bet Satisfying Retirement positively impacted countless people who were at a vulnerable point in their lives as they stepped off into the unknown. The legacy you're leaving behind now is a wealth of information couched in honesty, sincerity, compassion, empathy and reassurance - so very nicely done! I'll miss you and I'll miss the community that grew up around you. May your time be filled with the people and the activities you love the most. Wishing you and Betty all of life's best, today and always!

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  32. Bob- I have read you from the beginning and greatly valued your research. Thanks for the ride and all the very best in the future.

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  33. Bob,

    Sorry for the news, but I understand. You deserve some time going forward to sit, reflect, and think about your life and those you love without deadlines and the pressure of the "next topic."

    It is strange. About a month ago I had a dream that I could not find your blog on the internet. But I am glad that I did find it when I did. Best wishes to you and Betty, and all of the good things life has to bring to you going forward.

    Rick in Oregon (signing off) "73"

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  34. And by the way...

    I will leave you with one of my favorite "getting older" songs by John McCutcheon:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBXBWNSnRh4

    Rick in Oregon

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  35. I get it. I'll miss your thoughts and your wisdom. I know your next step will be interesting and you'll have the time to do it. Best to you!

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  36. All the best to you Bob! You got me to my retirement with all of your wonderful posts. I am so happy that you're ending on your own terms. Good Luck on your next chapter!

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  37. Bob, your blog has been with me since my retirement 8 yrs ago. There's so much more to retirement than just managing the finances as you so aptly shared with your readers. Do you know how many morning cups of coffee I've shared with you and your readership? Close to 3000! And like you've shared in your blog, retirement is a life event that continues to morph as we move through life. Thank you. Kindest regards.

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  38. I'm kind of stunned, but best wishes to you.

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  39. I was very surprised for your decision to stop writing your blog. I understand there is a beginning and an end in everything in life so I understand your decision as everybody.

    But I want to tell you that your messages and everything you wrote for us were a light in our paths. I waited every week to read your ideas and they were very helpful in my own retirement.


    I live in Colombia, South America and six years ago looking for something to read I discovered your blog and life changed for me. Thanks Bob !!! you did your best and I was a good student jejejejej. Also I could improve my English with with new vocabulary and expressions.
    Thanks so much again and my best wishes for you and your wife in your new challenges.

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  40. Best wishes for your own ongoing satisfying retirement. Mine might feel a little sparser without your blog posts as they have been a constant companion in my retirement to date and for which I thank you.

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  41. I have always enjoyed reading your thoughtful and informative posts. Thank you for your kind heart and level headed articles. Blessings to you and Betty for what I hope will be a long and happy life.

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  42. You have provided support and guidance since I retired six years ago. Thank-you ! I feel I am well on my way to a satisfying retirement thanks in part to your Blog. I will be sorry to see you go but recognize that your decision is the right one for you. Who knows perhaps you will re-start the Blog again in the future. I wish you and your wife all the best now and in the future.

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  43. Bob, I am so sad for myself and all your readers, but wishing you and your wife all the best in your next chapter. My husband and I are starting our early retirement at the end of July, and reading your blog these past several years was a big part in helping us to think through the many issues and questions that come with such a big life change. Thank you for sharing your insights, wisdom, and experience with the rest of us!! Please know that you have made a big difference for many people, including me! So, thank you and Godspeed!

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  44. Vaya Con Dios Bob. May your life be full of love and grandchildren.

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  45. I retired in 2010. You were a big help to me as I started my journey. Thank you for all your help. I wish you and your wife happiness and joy in whatever you do next.
    If you decide to write anything else let us know. I am thinking you have another book in you waiting to be written!

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  46. Bob, I interpret that at some point you will take this blog down. I've gone back to the beginning to read it all one more time, so I'm hoping I'll get back here before it goes poof 😉😉

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