April 12, 2019

The Mueller Report

I am not going where you think I might with this title. While I have strong opinions about the subject and the underlying issues, I will leave that discussion to other blogs. But, there is an important takeaway that relates to our lives. It is a problem for me, and likely you, too. 

No, I am not the subject of a Federal probe. However, I do fall prey to expectations of future events. My know what I want to happen. I have plans based on past experiences. I project my desires forward. 

Life, however, often makes other plans. Not all my expectations come to fruition.  What I thought would happens doesn't. What I want to happen remains a wish. What seemed predestined to occur doesn't.

I think there are a few reasons for this to be the end result. One, my expectations or wishes may be unrealistic. Just because I hope something happens has nothing to do with the actual outcome.

As I have written before, wishing something to be true doesn't make it so. The universe operates under a very strict set of rules.  Things happen because they are the only outcome possible at that moment with those circumstances. My desires are just that: wanting something to happen regardless of the circumstances.

Secondly, just because I believe something to be true doesn't mean it is. There might be millions of people who think like I do. There might be all sorts of support for a particular belief in a specific outcome. Yet, all that energy is not built on any foundation stronger than a wish. When what is real unfolds, disappointment, frustration, maybe even anger is the end product.

Of course, a rational analysis points to the simple fact that what I want to happen has no chance of influencing what ultimately does happen. My image is just that, an illusion. My god-like power to shape the future is rather limited.

Does this dash of cold water mean I am relegated to the sidelines? Is my only role to sit and wait for something to unfold before I react? Absolutely not.

In so many parts of my life, I do have more than just a desire or a wish that something turns out the way I want.  I can treat my body like a delicate instrument with amazing powers of recuperation and self-repair. If I treat it like a disposable toy, I will pay the price. A health-related health crisis may still arise, but it won't be because of something I could do but didn't.

I can plan for travel that feeds my soul, allows me to interact with others, both inside and outside of my cultural comfort zone. True, a 737 Max-8-type issue might mess up my careful planning, but eventually I will get where I am pointing, and trust that the plane or car (or train) will get me there safely.

I can decide I've always wanted to study the history of democracy and international relations, and do so. Maybe not inside a classroom, but there are enough resources to enable me to achieve my goal. All that knowledge may have no practical application, but I made happen what I wished would happen: I became better informed.

Bottom line:  Getting angry or depressed when the world doesn't react exactly like you want is a waste of energy. However, we have amazing capabilities to influence the shape, direction, and outcome of our life and the space we inhabit. 

Change, shape, and direct what we can...accept with good grace the rest. 


  1. All true Bob! Of course while I completely agree I still (occasionally) find myself wasting energy on things I can't change, control or fix. That's why I tend to read blog posts like yours to help remind me. Thanks. ~Kathy

    1. Wouldn't it be nice if everything worked out liked we wish it would. Fantasy, unfortunately, is best reflected in movies and books.

  2. This is one of the best posts I have read in a long time. My wish is for a nation of less rants and rages and more kindness and temperance.

    1. If more people adopted this attitude, our world would be so much more pleasant and peaceful and pleasant.

      By the way, I love your "occupation" listed in your profile: uber model for omar the tentmaker. That sounds like a story waiting to be told.

  3. Reminds me of the Mark Twain quote: “What gets us into trouble is not what we don't know. It's what we know for sure that just ain't so.”

    1. We have a very powerful knack of avoiding those things that don't fit our preconceived notions. That Mark Twain quote nails it.

  4. As an individual, one has rather limited power to shape the outcome of the big societal issues that one sees reflected on the news. However, that does not mean that each of else is helpless to influence anything. The power to make social change is additive: 1+1+1+1... If I want to help make a difference, I can change my own behaviour, I can talk to others about the issues, and I can join an organization working for social change. In your case, Bob, you have an extra advantage over most people. You have educated yourself, are an excellent writer, and you have a social media platform that has loyal readers and that has received millions of views.


    1. If I can help influence people just to think deeply about the issues and not let emotions sway decisions, I will be happy.

      In my own case, I know it is best to step away from all the chatter every once in a while and focus on those closest to me.


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