An astute reader left a comment a month or so ago on a previous post. She noted she is a glass half-full kind of person rather than one who sees the glass of her life as half-empty. Then, she added a thought that I loved: if life has suddenly become more of a struggle because of some problem, rather than switch to a pessimistic view, she simply envisions a smaller glass...which is still half full.
I have written a lot about attitude and retirement. There should be little doubt as to which side of the half glass side I am on. But, her comment gave me new insight into how to react to the inevitable stumbles and problems we will all encounter during this stage of life.
Now matter how well you have prepared, how many hours you spend in the gym, how much you exercise your mind, and how many roses you buy your spouse, you are going to go off the rails at some point. It may be a series of small detours that eventually allow you back on track. Or, the derailing may be much more serious, resulting in a change in your life that cannot be reversed.
When that happens what will you do? Will that glass start to look more empty than full? Will you become withdrawn because of your physical limitations or the loss of important relationships? Will you lash out at the world for the unfairness of it all?
Or, will you have the ability to shrink your glass? Will you look at the limitations and be able to say, "OK, I can't do what I once did. I can't live how I once could. This is what I can do now. And even though my glass is smaller, my life is still pretty good, and that glass is still at least half full."
I will readily admit my life to this point has been a rather smooth ride. There have been a few problems, but certainly nothing on the scale of what so many of you share in your life stories on these pages. I will also admit I expect my situation to change at some point. My life is not a fairy tale; it will have some chapters that I would rather not experience but must.
Then my half glass take on life with be tested. I believe my faith will provide me with the support I need to handle what is coming at some point. But, how I will react is still an unknown. When those situations arise I hope I can remember the lesson of the smaller glass.
More than any other part of retirement, be it financial, health, relationships, passions.....whatever....I firmly believe attitude spells the difference between a disappointing or unhappy retirement and one that is satisfying. Why? Because my attitude is 100% within my control. The world can throw everything against me to try and break my spirit. But, it cannot determine how I decide to react.
That is up to me. And, my glass will remain at least half full, regardless of how small a glass life decides to give me.