December 9, 2011

One Year Ago Today

My mother died one year ago today. It is hard to believe she has been gone that long. A friend of mine whose mother died five years ago mentioned recently he was upset because he could no longer remember his mom's voice. I hadn't really thought of the erosion of specific memories and pieces of a person until that comment. I can still remember my mom quite vividly but I wonder when that will start to slip.

What I remember most are the life lessons she taught me:
  •  Be honest and trustworthy
  •  Protect my reputation at all costs
  •  Help the less fortunate 
  •  Reading is a priceless gift. Use it every day
  •  Treat my wife like the jewel she is
  •  Keep smiling no matter what the circumstances. Attitude counts.
  •  Always put family first
  •  Never let your children there for them forever
  •  Stay married (she made 63 years)
  •  If in doubt check the dictionary

Thanks, mom for making me the man I am today. I miss you and your strong presence. I am watching over dad, not as well as you did, but I'm doing my best.


  1. So sorry for your loss, Bob. That first anniversary is so hard.

    My father died, but we still have my mom. We lost my sister at the young age of 33, and I hope and pray my mom doesn't have to live through losing another child. So I hope my brothers and I outlive her, but I am dreading the day she goes. I treasure my time with her.

    I love your life lessons, and I think my mom taught us most of the same ones.

    Be kind to yourself today. And give your dad an extra hug. All the best!

  2. My mom died 33 years ago and I still am not over it. Something about losing one's mother. It's hard.

    I keep her photo by my bed. I have a tape recording of a speech she gave right before she died.

    My condolences, Bob.

  3. I'm sorry for your loss Bob. Even after a year, I'm sure it is painful.

  4. Your Mom sounded like a great woman, Bob. Wish I had met her.

  5. All these losses are so hard. Treasure the wonderful memories and I'm sure she knows that you are taking care of your father. My father died in 2007 and I am trying to take care of my mother also.

  6. I am so sorry for your loss. Wise women are not forgotten, their lessons live on.

  7. What a sweet tribute to your mom. She is probably bragging about you in heaven to all her friends. "Look what a fine son I have!"

  8. To everyone,

    A heartfelt thanks for your kind wishes and concerns. Mom was quite a woman and has probably whipped her corner of heaven into shape.

  9. I am very sorry for your loss. I wish all mothers managed to teach their sons this: "Treat my wife like the jewel she is." Your mom was very wise.