July 26, 2010

What is Most Important to You?

The Google gadget for taking a poll of this blog's readers doesn't work properly, so I'll do it the old fashioned way: pose a question and ask for a comment.

What topics are most important to you as an about-to-retire, just-retired, or long time retired person?  There are dozens of things that could be written about, but the ones that are important are the ones that most concern you. So, why don't I just ask?

Health, finances, relationships, keeping an active mind, travel, having fun and making friends, managing your time, discovering your new passion, exploring your creative side...what are the areas that you would like to learn more about, or discuss with others? Which of these worry you or bother you?

Very simply, I ask that you leave a comment below with one or more of these words. If there is a topic or area of concern that isn't listed, by all means, add it. We will all learn something.

I will attempt to tailor future blogs to what you say is most important to you. Thanks for your thoughts and input. I am anxious to see what pops up.


  1. I am most interested in relationships. How do spouses divide chores and responsibilities? I'd like to go deeper into how you spend quality time with your spouse without becoming joined at the hip.

  2. Health is the most important thing to me because without health everything else will fall apart. Over the last 4 years since I retired I have rediscovered old passions. It seems to me that there are stages to retirement and I'd be interested in some articles that reflect the evolution of one's retirement. Thanks for asking.

  3. Thanks Patricia for the comment. I totally agree with the importance of day-to-day health. Feeling good makes everything else in your life doable.

    I have written a few articles about the stages of retirement that you may want to read. Look under the Labels section on the right hand side of this page. There are 4 posts under Stages of Retirement that you can read by clicking that link. I'd be very interested in your comments & feedback on your personal journey.

  4. My quest is to achieve inner peace, without losing external exuberance. Deep and profound is good, silly and frivolous is good too.

  5. Inner peace without losing a sense of fun and discovery. You've said it all. Retirement doesn't mean we stop living, in fact it can be just the opposite. Thanks for your thoughts. I'll include your goals in future posts.

  6. To first anonymous...

    My post on July 22nd (Who is That Person Sitting Beside Me) deals with this topic to a degree. But, you have identified an area that needs a lot more discussion. My reading and life experience tells me stay-at-home wives actually have a bigger adjustment than the husband retiree. Finding a way to be together, but not 24/7 is a skill that must be learned.

  7. You know that article about grandchildren you linked to? The statement that bothered me personally was "Those who had found retiring most difficult were military personnel and civil servants" because it plays into my fears.

    I'm a civil servant, and single. My only child lives in Alaska. (No grandchildren yet.) I have good friends but don't want to be dependent on them for 'keeping busy'.

    What's most important to me? Everything you listed. I am so excited about retiring but don't want to waste it!! (Retiring in December or March.)

    I've started with your earlier blogs and am working my way current. So far, your writings are feeding my needs. Thank you.

  8. Diana,

    Thanks so much for finding this blog and leaving your comment. The article you refer to was from the Times of London. As I noted in the intro of that July 18th post, I disagreed with the basic premise about grandkids but figured the article would provoke some discussion. The statement that civil servants have the most problems in retirement was not given any sort of statistical support so I'd ignore it.

    In my experience and research for this blog I have not found any information that any one career has more problems in retirement than any other. Retirement is a period of adjustment for us all, regardless of our past.

    Your feeling of excitement about retiring is a good sign that you are ready. Thanks again for finding this blog. Please leave comments or e-mail directly if you need more information or want to discuss something with me.