One chore we are all familiar with is taking out the trash. While it may not be fun, it is necessary. The stuff will not walk itself to the curb for pickup. Holding on to it serves no purpose but to clutter up our lives.
I suggest the same requirement exists in our personal lives. A satisfying retirement is going to require getting rid of things on a regular basis that no longer serve a purpose or just clutter up your life. A life accumulates various types of "trash" that is best dumped.
Self-imposed Limits. I'm hard pressed to think of anything more destructive to our personal development and growth than limits we put on ourselves. We think we aren't very creative so we never explore that part of us. We have been told by someone in the past we aren't very smart or strong or productive or capable or.....(fill in your externally imposed limits). We have internalized that judgment of part of us by accepting someone else's view of our abilities as true. So, we no longer try.
We have failed at a previous attempt to form a meaningful relationship, start a business, write a book, learn to play tennis, grow vegetables in the back yard....whatever...and so we are afraid. We eliminate the chance of failure by refusing to try. Actually, we eliminate the chance of success.
Self-imposed limits are part of the trash of our life that must be disposed of on a regular basis. These limits will limit your happiness and your satisfaction. These limits will make it impossible for you to grow to your potential. Label these self-imposed limits for what they are: garbage that needs to go.
Habits that no longer serve a purpose. We all have them. They could be habits we know aren't good for us but are tough to dump. They could be habits that affect our interaction with others. The list is long and the causes are complicated. I tried to quit smoking at least five times before it actually stuck back in the late 80's.
In this case, though, I'm referring to habits, or patterns of behavior, that once served us well, but no longer do. Previous posts have talked about how I fell into a routine of reading two newspapers every morning, until I realized I was wasting my most productive time of the day on something that could be done later (or eventually dropped completely). Maybe we have always answered every e-mail the second it hits our inbox, until we realize that is amazingly unproductive. Going out to eat several nights a week is an easy habit to develop. Cooking after a full day of work is not something everyone looks forward to. But, now that you are retired, the pattern of eating most dinners at a restaurant no longer serves the same purpose. Also, it is probably putting a major dent in your retirement budget. I used to buy lots of books from Amazon, until I ran out of bookshelf space. Now, the library, with the purchase of an occasional book I really want to read is a much better match to my lifestyle.
We are resistant to change and comfortable with our routines. In fact, for many of us, our routines comfort us to the point where even the simplest change takes effort. But, are the routines and habits still serving a purpose? Do some of them need to be taken to the curb?
Grudges and Past Hurts. Here is a tough one. Doesn't it feel good to dislike someone who did you wrong all those years ago. It is easy to work up a towering inferno or rage and anger...until you stop to remember what caused the problem in the first place, and can't. Or, you review where the grudge came from and now, years later, it seems so petty and silly.
Holding on to an insult, or unkind action is never very helpful. It may feel good for a moment to zing someone back, but rarely does it solve the problem. Even worse is to allow a past hurt to fester for years, preventing you from moving on.
Taking out the trash every week helps keep your house free of clutter and unpleasant smells. Getting rid of the trash in your life is more complicated, but every bit as important to your satisfying retirement.